Prov. 27:2: Let another praise you and not your own mouth. A stranger and not your own lips.
Terrell Owens famous quote “I love me some me” is indicative of the culture we live in. The message of Proverbs 27:2 is mostly lost on a society that’s main goal seems to be to feature self in all realms of social media.
CS Lewis’s thoughts on humility are quite the opposite: “humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.”
Putting God ahead of ourselves, and others ahead of ourselves is the idea (Phil 2:1-4). Pride is the great sin other sins come from.
The research of James Pennebaker shows the connection between depression and an increase in the use of “I” words. On the contrary an increased use of “we” words show a greater focus on community. Our words are powerful. Even the smallest of words say a lot about who we are. Pronoun use overtime appears to be a good indicator of emotional health and relationship status. Word are so telling that experts can predict relationship break ups 3 months out with high levels of accuracy based on the wording of posts alone.
Read Luke 15:11ff and notice the pronouns. Verse 12: “Father, give me the share… that is owing to me.” 21:” Father I have sinned against heaven and against you, I am no longer worthy to be called your son.” 23-24: “let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead and is alive again.”
1. Words are tools that shape the world and build things. The advertising world is a perfect example. You are sold by the words that are used. Words can also be weapons to hurt and manipulate. Words can also bring healing and comfort, show compassion and offer instruction. Exercise for kids: write down three things that went well today. Studies have shown that over time this exercise dramatically improves outlook and mindset. You can reprogram your brain.
2. Words are also mirrors. Only my spirit knows my thoughts. Our words then demonstrate the condition of our heart. Our words will betray us. If you are a good person, your words will prove it and, conversely, if you are an evil person that will also be revealed. This is why the wise man tells us to watch our words. We need a bridle on the tongue. Just because we think something doesn’t mean we ought to say it. It takes time to consider our words before we say them. The use of “I” isn’t always bad nor is the use of “you” always good. It depends upon the context.
3. Words relate to self-awareness. How self centered is it when people create their own pronouns? How delusional. Our culture is obsessed with the definition of self. Social media feeds this delusion. Many posts are about what’s important to me. The “me monster” is selfish, even narcissistic. “I can’t take it anymore…” an example. Focusing on self is exhausting. If overdone, they take us away from what is important in life.
What do my words reveal about me?
Sermon by Brent Moody
